Fatherhood

I feel that fatherhood (as is motherhood) is one of the most important callings that one can perform while in mortality. Like I eluded to above, motherhood is very important, and nothing I say or don't say in this blog means to undermine that vital role. However, today I wish to briefly discuss the importance of fathers.

My father drove truck for a living and because of that he wasn't home much as I grew up. I love my father and respect him. Also, I am so grateful that he worked hard and did what he could to provide for his family. With that said, I also feel that because he was gone so much he missed out on many opportunities and experiences to be with and teach his children. I think that he wasn't able to develop as strong of a relationship with each child as he would have liked. I know that my father realizes this and I think that it hurts him to think about all the stuff that he missed out on. However, I think that due to this he now cherishes the time he gets to be with his kids and grand-kids.

I am going to do my best to be the best father to my children. I want my children to know that I love them so much and that I will be there for them. I want them to be able to feel free to talk openly with me. I want a strong relationship with each one on an individual level that they can each trust me and share their feelings with me.

Stay at Home Mom

After talking in class and to my wife later about parents that both work I realize that it is much better for a family to follow the council of leaders to have the mother stay in the home, if possible. I know my wife gets restless and tired of taking care of kids all day, but we both agree that it is such a huge blessing that our son gets to be with his mom all day rather than a stranger. My wife watches a little girl every day for 5 to 7 hours on average and somedays even 9 hours. I think we both realize how sad that would be to have our son in another persons home getting taught and disciplined by another person. Stay at home mothers also allow for more time for a husband and a wife to spend time together. We realize how difficult it would be to see each other if we both worked and had different schedules and that Cache might not get to see his parents together. The wife helps her husband so much when he can come home and play with his kids and spend time with her because she has helped so much to take care of so many important things that he could not do while at school or work. My wife does so much during the day and it is so nice to come home and know that my partner has prepared everything so I can come in set down my stuff and pick up my boy and she is there waiting for me. It makes me so happy and is such a joy to have that.

Burden or Blessing?

Many stressful unexpected things can and will happen to us throughout our lives. Most of them will be small and insignificant. However, some will be life changing! They can change our lives for the better or for the worse. Much of how these events effect us depends on our attitudes towards what we may deal with. I have had an example of this happen in my own life that gives me a good perspective. When I was in 8th grade I had very bad acne and I had to go to a dermatologist and get shots of Acutane in my face that were so painful that my mom had to hold me down and she would cry as I was screaming in pain. Before this happened I had been fairly popular and liked by alot of people in my grade and played basketball with a bunch of the other popular kids. So after I got my acne I felt embarrassed and ashamed and didn't want to be around any of those people especially any of the girls. Looking back now I can see the blessings of that trial because of all the important lessons I learned and the changes it caused in me. I learned humility and putting myself in other people's shoes and to feel sympathy for other peoples trials and hardships. I could see the flaws that others had that I had once looked down on and now had sympathy and understanding towards them.

Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

This week we discussed the importance of Intimacy in Marriage. One of the things that I got out of it is that couples need to work on it. This is such a vital part of having a healthy marriage. Sex isn't like how you see it portrayed on TV or in the movies. It is something that takes work, communication, patience, love and unselfishness. I feel that Satan tries so hard to make couples mess up with immorality before marriage. It is very likely then that he is trying with just as much effort after we get married to ruin marriage with bad intimacy in marriage.

Its kind of an uncomfortable subject to talk about, but it is important to know the anatomy of your spouse and know how they work in intercourse. If you don't know this, it can make it very difficult to ensure that your spouses needs are being met. AND it is very important that intimacy in marriage is a wonderful experience for each of you, otherwise it will lead to one not wanting to do it. Then that can lead to more problems and bigger problems. SO it is important to talk to each other and to be kind and considerate of each other. Its also important to know that men and women often show affection differently. Men often try to express their love by making love, when in reality, their wives feel most loved by being cuddled or being told how beautiful they are. So it is a must to learn each others love language and LEARN how to speak it!!!